Middle School

Understand or Not

Lesson 3 


Summer 2020


By: George Halitzka 


June 21, 2020

Lesson Focus:

Honor your parents.

Bible Basis:

Exodus 20:12-13; Mark 7:9-13; Matthew 5:21-22

Materials Needed:

Step 1:

  • Internet access

Summary & Links:

Students will watch a video about irritations between family members during quarantine and discover that God wants them to honor their parents even when there are misunderstandings.

Memory Verse:

“Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise.
—Ephesians 6:2

Step 1:

Students will watch a video about irritations between family members during quarantine and discover that God wants them to honor their parents even when there are misunderstandings.

Materials Needed:

  • Internet access

It’s normal for kids to get frustrated by their families sometimes. Especially after being confined in close quarters. Some of you may be experiencing some of the issues these two siblings have.

Share the following video [5:25]:
Emily and Evelyn

  • Any of these scenarios look familiar? Which ones could you relate to? (Allow your students a chance to share some of their own experiences but be sure to monitor the conversation to keep it kind and light-hearted.)

Most parents are trying really hard to understand what you’re going through—after all, Mom and Dad are in this, too. They are trying to hear each side of a dispute and come up with a solution that may or may not satisfy every person involved. There are some things your parents can’t do anything about—like social distancing. And there truly may be some things that your parents just don’t seem to “get”—before or after the quarantine.

Misunderstanding can be a two-way street. You think your parents don’t understand you? What about you understanding them?

  • What are some of the things that kids may not understand about their parents? (Try to guide them toward a deeper perspective. Examples: most middle-schoolers don’t realize what it’s like to go to work, raise children, pay bills, repair a car, etc. Allow students to think through some of the things they may not understand with regard to current situations in the world right now.)

Sad but true, parents and kids don’t always understand each other perfectly. But even when they miss connections, they still have responsibilities to each other. For example, your mom and dad have a responsibility to feed you and give you a place to sleep. And you have responsibilities to them which begin with showing them honor. Let’s take a few minutes to explore what the Bible says about honoring Mom and Dad.

Looking for Steps 2, 3 & 4?

You can find Steps 2 and 3 in your teacher’s guide. To purchase a teacher’s guide, please visit: Bible-in-Life or Echoes.

Step 4:

Materials Needed:

  • Index cards
  • Pens/pencils

Some of your students may have designed a card and written a poem for their parents in the Step 3 activities. This step will take it further by having your students commit to and follow through on honoring their parents in a practical way.

Make sure each student has an index card and a pen/pencil. Ask your students to think of one way that they may have dishonored their parents—perhaps by grumbling when they completed a chore. Instruct them to create a coupon that will show honor in that area.

Have your students write “Honor Coupon” at the top of their index card along with an appropriate act of service. For example, if complaining about doing the dishes was a way a student dishonored Mom, they might give a coupon for an extra night of doing the dishes without complaint even though it’s not their turn. Dad might get a free car wash or mowed lawn if he was previously disrespected when he asked them to do it before.

You can offer anything you want but there’s one catch: You have to choose something above and beyond what you normally do. If the dishes are already your job three nights a week, your honor coupon only counts if it is good for a fourth night.

Sometime today, give your honor coupon to Mom or Dad. Explain what you talked about in class today. It would be a great opportunity to say sorry for disrespect in the past.  

Honoring your parents is something God wants us to do all the time—this coupon is just a start. Let it be your first step in choosing to honor Mom and Dad every day. 

Give your students a few minutes to create their coupons. If your students did design a card in Step 3, suggest that they slip the honor coupon inside before they present the greeting card to their parents.

If time permits, invite (but don’t require) your teens to share what they wrote on their honor coupons.

Close in prayer, asking God to help all of you show honor and respect to your parents at all times.

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