Welcome your students and check in on their week. Begin the class by asking everyone to share one thing they did for someone else this week.
- Why did you do that nice thing? (Answers will vary. Maybe their parents forced them to. Maybe they just wanted to. Maybe they feel like they were supposed to. Maybe they hoped they would get paid.)
- What are some good reasons to do nice things for others? (I’m honoring my parents, God wants me to, it helps others, to show Jesus’ love to others, etc.)
- Are there bad reasons to do good things? What are they? (Secretly hoping they will do something nice for me, I’ll get something out of it, I have to, etc.)
Let’s watch a video of something psychologists describe as “love bombing”—using nice gestures or behaviors for the wrong reasons.
Share this short video:
Love Bombing: The Manipulative Tactic You Need To Know About | Jonathan Evans
Love bombing is most commonly seen in the beginning of romantic relationships. One person might be especially affectionate or do grand romantic gestures to make the other person like them. While it’s good to be kind and affectionate to the people in our lives, motivations matter. We can do nice and loving things for the people in our lives because we love and care about them, rather than because we’re trying to trick people into liking us.
- Do you think it’s also important to have the right motivations for how we love and serve God? Why or why not? (Answers will vary. Some students will say our motivation doesn’t matter as long as we’re doing good things for God. Others may point out that God knows and examines our hearts along with our actions.)
Sometimes our motives are good, other times they’re not. Sometimes other people know or can guess our motives, other times only God knows. We’re not the only ones. Our Bible story today teaches us about someone who had bad motives. Let’s see what the Bible has to say about acting with bad motives.